I meant to write about this at the time, and didn’t because of all the things, but I want to record this one. Because it, inevitably, finally came up, and this is how it went. (And of course cos it’s my son, it happened in the context of story.)
C: Sometimes a boy loves a girl and she goes away and then his heart is broken.
J: Yes, sometimes that happens.
C: And a girl can love a boy and if he goes away her heart is broken.
J: Yes, that happens too.
C: Boys and girls can love each other.
J: Yep. And sometimes boys and boys can love each other, and girls and girls can love each other too.
C: *laughs* No, that’s not right.
J: Sure it is. Think about [friends of ours who are gay]. They love each other, and they’re both girls, right?
C: Yes, they do!
J: So don’t you think if one of them went away the other would be sad? Just like the boy and girl earlier?
C: Yes, they would. *thinks* Anyone can love anyone. And when they go away they are sad and their heart can be broken. That’s right, isn’t it Mommy?
J: That’s right.
OH HOW WILL HE BEAR THE SCARRING, WON’T SOMEONE THINK OF THE CHILDREN??!!